I Am An Authentic Person; I Don’t Like False Appearances

I am an authentic person, coherent with my principles, and I don’t try to appear better than anyone. Also, I don’t try to be anyone other than me to please others. I am what you see and I speak only one language: the language of sincerity.

Authenticity of the mind, brain and will is rare and the reason for this is simple. People sometimes pretend to be different from what they are for approval  or integration into their day-to-day relationships.

Life is a long road where we always have to remember who we really are. And such fundamental pillars as  loving yourself, integrity, and respect for yourself and others are the kinds of qualities that should define us.

It is not always easy to maintain this sincere attitude. Sometimes it leads to a conflict when we really show ourselves or some kind of friction that makes us feel opposite of what we are.

Authenticity is above all about respect. “I am myself, but I respect who you are.” We live in a world where everyone has a place and where one of the things that can hurt us the most is false appearances.

An authentic person searches for the essence of things

Seeking the essence of things means looking for authenticity above all else. And we do this by living from our hearts and knowing how to observe things that really matter.

We also know that  in recent years the term “authentic person” has become very popular. So popular, in fact, that some people look at these words skeptically, as if everyone is not “real and authentic” by nature.

For this reason and to refine the definition a bit, it is worth considering these minor adjustments.

• A 2015 Psychology Today  article explained that an authentic or sincere person is above all a personality that does not use falsehood  and is uncomfortable with it.

• It is also interesting to consider that  they are people who live every day from the inside out:  they care for, analyze, reflect on and value their thoughts and attitudes and they do the same for every thing that comes to their mind.
• They are independent people and they only respond to inner expectations. They will never seek the approval of others to do anything and they will never let their happiness be “caught in other people’s pockets”.
• An authentic or sincere person learns from his mistakes or mistakes,  takes responsibility for them and accepts them so that he can continue on his way. He understands the value of effort and personal triumph.
• Their self-esteem is strong and secure. However, getting to where they are is not easy; often it takes a long road of confusion and lessons to finally discover the value of essences, truth, freedom, humility, self-love and happiness.

False appearances: a personality behind a mask

Just like we said at the beginning,  almost everyone has experienced a situation where they have to pretend to be something other than who they are. A teenager does it to integrate into a social group and adults sometimes do it because they feel obligated or not to hurt someone else, to keep the peace in that moment. If there is one thing authentic people cannot stand, it is false people who complain about their own falsehood.

It is remarkable how complicated it is to be human. Some people shape their personalities around what others expect of them. Others avoid their friends and family, but fake genuine affection… Why do we do that?

Sometimes it is mandatory to use false pretense and masks as it is part of socializing, but by continuing to do this for a longer period of time we run the risk of not recognizing ourselves anymore. An authentic person may have gone through that phase, but in the end he has decided that he is not going to do it anymore and that it no longer fits with his principles, with the essence of who he is.

We must remember that part of our life lessons is to mold our image with integrity  and to consolidate it to ourselves and the outside: this is me.

–Images courtesy of Tugba Sayin and Pascal Campion–