Sincere Kindness Is A Universal Language

Genuine kindness makes the people who practice it strong. It is also more than good manners or formalities. When kindness is authentic, it shows genuine devotion and respect for others. It is also a testament to good character and a key that opens most doors.

The truth is that kindness is a universal language. It’s also not just a language we use among friends. After all, kindness can be very powerful in difficult circumstances or with stubborn people. Most human beings are sensitive to the power of a friendly attitude.

Sometimes we confuse kindness with hypocrisy. People sometimes pretend to be nice to others or avoid conflict by staying silent. They can also just say what they think the other person wants to hear. That way they try to get the situation under control. This is not genuine kindness. Rather, it is a form of manipulation.

True kindness comes more from people’s body language than from social formalities. Here are some tips on how to recognize genuine kindness.

Visual contact and genuine friendliness

Visual contact is one way you can detect hostility and kindness. If someone refuses to look you in the eye, it implies a certain amount of rejection. Lifting your jaw and looking down at someone or looking over your shoulder at them can also be signs of hostility.

On the other hand, when you look at someone with kindness, you do so in a spontaneous and warm way. A friendly person looks everyone who talks in the eye. When a genuinely friendly person speaks himself, he also makes eye contact with the listeners. This warm and open contact ensures that everyone feels at ease and on an equal footing.

Gestures of acceptance

People who are genuinely kind show respect for the opinions of others. They know how to listen even if they disagree with the other person. Friendly people also make gestures of approval when other persons speak. They do this to encourage conversation and show that they are listening.

Nodding or bending slightly at the other person will encourage the speaker to continue talking. These gestures may seem small. Yet they make it easy for people to express themselves.

They break down all barriers that can exist. Smiling is also a sign of approval and acceptance. All these things make the speaker relax. It also makes everyone feel more connected.

Finding balance in the conversation

Few people are well versed in the art of conversation. However, in an atmosphere of genuine warmth, everyone understands the importance of balance in the interactions.

Both parties then effortlessly see the importance of the road-and-back in a good conversation. There is a moment to speak and a moment to listen. This is the only way to establish good communication.

Claiming or directing conversations to topics that are not of general interest is bad for communication. Ideally, everyone should be able to participate.

If people don’t try to impose their will or stand out, it will happen naturally. Things will then run smoothly without anyone having to make a special effort.

Flattery is not synonymous with kindness

Some people play the host or hostess in whatever situation they find themselves in. They then use flattery and compliments to interact with people and make themselves look nice. However, they do this automatically. It’s like they’re reading a script that has nothing to do with what they’re really thinking.

Genuine kindness has nothing to do with flattery. It is one thing to recognize the merit and value of other people’s achievements.

Acting crotchety is something completely different. Moreover, being friendly is completely different from being a chatterbox. Genuine kindness can adapt to certain situations but is never theatre. Really nice people don’t pretend.

Kindness is one of the traits that one of the most well-known personality tests evaluates. We are, of course, talking about the Big Five model. In a study by Jan JF Ter Laak you can find a great description of this personality test.

All deeds and all words of men can be improved with kindness. We should all try harder to be nice. Then we will be able to handle difficult relationships and situations with greater intelligence and in an easier way.