The Secret To Moving On With Your Life: Starting Over

Moving on and starting over without looking back isn’t always easy, especially if you’re carrying a lot of emotional baggage. Sometimes you have to stop in between to heal or find yourself again. It’s only when you’ve formed that new and better version of yourself that you’re really ready to move on.

We could compare life to a woven cloth with a pattern embroidered on it that has all kinds of beginnings and endings.

A beginning and an end are two sides of the same coin, full of conflicting emotions that are difficult to control. That’s because it’s hard to look beyond your fears and see how many opportunities lie on the horizon.

Experts in this field, such as Denise Beike of the University of Arkansas, argue that the things that happen to you are not as important as how you interact with them. It is therefore very important to have a clear and objective perspective for certain things.

The roots of pain

After you went through something difficult in your life, the people around you probably told you to find a way to move on with your life.

However, how do you do this when you are struggling with so much fear and pain? You know you have to move on and look to the future, yet it’s not always easy to actually do this.

The roots of pain often run very deep. You can’t just pull them out and put them somewhere else. So starting over again is not that easy.

You must be able to repair yourself, transform yourself and create a new you based on everything you have experienced and learned. This process may take some time. So give yourself this time. You will see that starting all over again will suddenly become a lot easier.

You can’t move forward if you’re still carrying emotional baggage

You can do it. Set your eyes on the horizon and move forward step by step. You could even leave it all to time to heal all your emotional wounds.

Many people think that the passage of time will help them forget their pain and memories. However, there will come a day when they too will realize that this strategy doesn’t really work.

Albert Ellis, the well-known cognitive psychotherapist, often said that as humans we get carried away by certain beliefs without even thinking about other options. Ellis called these “irrational ideas.” These are ideas that cause us to end up in unhealthy and problematic situations.

So any time you are going through a difficult period or a period of transition in your life, you should think about the following ideas:

Keep moving forward emotionally

Moving forward is not the same as traveling further. After a divorce or loss, people often turn to psychological help because they wanted to move on with their lives without giving themselves enough time to grieve.

You should definitely add this very simple idea to your list: moving forward. Here’s what it means:

• Moving forward does not mean getting stuck in the same place.
• It implies adopting a new life strategy.

• Moving forward requires starting from within, without running away.
• It means facing what you feel and then accepting it. You have to understand it, heal it and give yourself the chance to start again. That is the only way to make real emotional and psychological progress.
• It is also important to know that the pain and sorrow of a loss will never go away. No one can erase these feelings. Therefore, make room for it in yourself and learn to live with it.

Transitions take time

A study by Mark A. Thornton of Cornell University shows that every change brings a number of emotions. Therefore, in order to effectively deal with a change, you must first know how to deal with these emotions.

If you don’t and you try to stir up the process, you run the risk of developing a mental disorder such as depression.

You must be able to channel your anger and frustration. You also need to know how to analyze your disappointment and learn from it.

Start again with an improved and stronger version of yourself

People don’t change, they move forward. We recreate ourselves as often as we need. We do not do this on a whim or for our own amusement. Transformation happens when you endure adversity and manage to emerge stronger and more prepared.

You know that moving on is the only option you have in life. The alternative is to become paralyzed and stranded. However , you can decide for yourself how you do it.

Don’t try to run away from yourself and your emotions. Open the door to that dark and cluttered room where the deepest part of yourself is hidden. Give it some love, tidy it up and let it air.

Allow yourself to start over. Continue on your path as a stronger and more hopeful person. As Charlotte Brontë once said, “What need is there to dwell on the past when the present offers so much certainty and the future is so much brighter?”