What Must Happen Will Happen
Today I’ve decided to give my heart a break and let things run their course so that whatever needs to grow will grow. Maybe it’s time to stop holding my emotions in check, and instead just let them rise and take shape spontaneously, without fear or without censoring them. I think I just have to give myself a chance to stop forcing things and try to swim against the current.
At times I’ve chased experiences that weren’t really made for me at all, but instead of freeing myself from these experiences, I hoped they would eventually turn out the way I wanted. I’ve forgotten what it takes to try to force circumstances to conform to your life, to push them into places where they don’t belong, and I’ve done a tremendous amount of damage in doing so.
So now I’m like, if something has to come, let it come. I will meet it with open arms and my feet firmly on the ground, but without chains. Chains are never good, especially the invisible chains with which you chain yourself and which you cannot then throw off because you have forgotten where you left the key. I say goodbye to inhibition, fear, pressure, aloofness, panic and excessive control.
Enforcing situations: the side effects
When I think I’m in control of my emotions, I’m usually completely wrong. This is because I am extremely careful with my emotions, which causes me to try to force situations and completely lose control. Suppressing, denying, hiding or repressing your feelings instead of allowing them to grow prevents you from listening to yourself and thus getting to know yourself better.
I’ve found myself having the urge to stop or fast-forward time, to run away only to regret it later, to deny myself sincerity while looking for it in other people . And I am aware that I have missed opportunities. I’ve let cars and trains pass that could have brought me closer to happiness.
Forcing things always produces a state of discomfort and discontent that hides within us and turns into negative energy. So if you try to do this, it will cost you dearly, because the negativity you feel inside yourself can turn into physical and mental exhaustion. Suppressing your feelings won’t help keep them from looking for another way to express themselves or turning into some kind of illness.
The secret to letting things run their course
I’ve come to see that when you free yourself from expectations and just let things go the way they’re supposed to, everything suddenly seems to fall into place. The walls break down and things unfold naturally.
“I’ve got nothing but a handful of kisses, and an army of caresses”
no reason to invade you,
but i have whole cities
to collapse because of smiles that were worth far less than yours,
So go on, shuffle the cards one more time
we will continue to play here.”
-Pablo Benavente-
It’s all about waiting and not making hasty decisions when it comes to the unexpected so that you can make the most of the time you have. It’s also about not getting ahead of things, things that haven’t happened yet, and letting the future unfold harmoniously, without trying to avoid it or change it before it even happened.
How do you do that?
The first thing to keep in mind is that letting things run their course is not the same as making no effort at all or doing nothing at all. Rather, it means being aware that there are plenty of things you have no control over. Understanding this can help you avoid running into the same wall over and over. Life is constantly changing and unpredictable, dragging your plans, projects and even you with it.
Remember that everything is only temporary, and that even time takes time. Rushing the time, worrying about it, and demanding too much of it can eventually turn against you. You have to be patient so that the things that need to happen can happen once you have decided to wait for them.
